Log in

No account? Create an account

Previous Entry | Next Entry

Stuff and things (in the literal sense)

After a trip that was full of crazy amounts of shopping, I'm still reeling a bit. I managed to check a few more items off of the current List of Things to Acquire, to a point where it's time to re-write the whole list. They weren't particularly fun items or anything, but they'd been occupying mental space, along with overall trip planning, and now all sorts of other thoughts are rushing in to fill the vacuum: what's my current situation in terms of bike maintenance, how am I going to transport my junk up to Lincoln, where am I going to live, what things should I have my eye on for the near future, what about SolsticeChristmasHanukkahKwanzaa gifts, I want to bake things, there are a bunch of upcoming holiday event extravaganzas, et cetera.

In light of it all, I appreciated reading this piece on how parents set holiday gift expectations for their kids. I REALLY like the notion of taking a lot of the guesswork out of gift-giving. This goes hand-in-hand with teaching kids how to have a healthy attitude about stuff. Overall, that's what my parents pushed for, and yet the stuff attitude management is an ongoing process. I'm happy to put the bulk of the stuff-acquisition and stuff-reduction on hiatus again for a while.

I think I've finished the bulk of my winter gift-giving endeavors. The part that tends to be the most tricky for me is how to set appropriate boundaries - what can I do to best celebrate my relationships with more-peripheral friends? It's tempting to go nuts and make candy and cookies and chocolates, but these things tend to be overabundant this time of year. I suppose that's why many other people write a holiday letter and call it good.


( 2 remarks — Remark )
Dec. 6th, 2014 12:53 am (UTC)
I am kind of agog at "Is that it?" ever coming out of a kid's mouth. I can't imagine what would have happened if I had ever said such a thing, but, my parents would not have tolerated it at all. We were taught that gifts were sort of manna from heaven, and that you didn't get to demand what you got or how much, you could hope but you should be grateful for anything that you received.

(I realize that I sound eleventy million years old here. In my day! Get off my lawn! But we *were*. Heh.)

I like the use of gifts as a way to say "hey, I care about you". I wonder how much of my not-very-materialistic but very community-oriented attitude came from this part of my upbringing, versus was just me.
Dec. 8th, 2014 09:48 pm (UTC)
I don't think we ever said "Is that it?" but I distinctly remember having a slight letdown feeling after the unwrapping concluded. But kids don't have a particularly sophisticated sense of how the world works.

It sounds like your parents did a reasonably good job on that front!
( 2 remarks — Remark )

Latest Month

March 2019


Powered by LiveJournal.com
Designed by Naoto Kishi